In my last Oprah magazine I found an article about one of my favorite authors, Iyania Vanzant. I have quite a few of her books. I signed up my email and now I get daily inspiration from her.
Today I read about freedom. And I was reminded about this morning when I woke up and what I thought about. I thought about the talk I had with Duke last night. I am more and more aware that our relationship is based on his happiness not mine. I feel tied to him because I want him to love me. He tells me nice stuff and catches me like a fish. But then he goes on about his life which really has nothing to do with me. I try to stand up for my self and told him how I felt about us really not being together, he got scared and begged me to stay in his life. So this morning I realized that I have longed to be loved my whole life by another person. Then when I read about freedom I realized that I can be free from the need to be loved, when I really feel free to love myself.
The application of Freedom
Do we choose for ourselves that which we truly desire?Under most of the normal conditions and pressures of life, we do not. We allow labels and expectations to keep us in boxes, then we cry out for freedom. The entire purpose of life on earth is for us to be free, exercise free will, and choose the parameters of our freedom.
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Freedom is a state of mind. It is the outgrowth of our willingness to make conscious choices of our own free will and to live through the consequences of our choices without blame, shame, or guilt. Freedom is a sign of self-awareness. When you are aware of what it takes to maintain your mental, emotional, and physical well-being and you make conscious choices toward that goal, you are exercising your freedom.Freedom is the recognition of the truth.
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You are powerful.You are unlimited. You are the reflection of creative genius. When you realize this truth and accept it as a fact of your reality, you know that you are free to choose whatever you believe to be the truest reflection of your identity. Freedom requires consistent and repeated acts of courage.
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What you believe, how you feel, what you do, how you respond to any given circumstance at any given time is the only impediment to freedom. You are always free to choose how you will respond.
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Are you courageous enough to live the truth of your desires without fear? This is what will determine your freedom. . . . More important, once you are clear about the experience you want to have, you are free to make the choices that will result in your having that experience.
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When I realized that God, the divine source of life, not people, was the source and substance of all good things, I was freed from every "ism" that held me captive.
Excerpted from One Day My Soul Just Opened Up
by
Iyanla Vanzant
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